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Working in a Hostile Environment

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Now, on this blog I generally don’t discuss religion, but I take truth and inspiration where I can find it.

T.D. Jakes did a sermon/lecture called “The Ten Commandments of Working in a Hostile Environment.”

Here are the 10 commandments:

  1. GOD anoints you in trouble
  2. Don’t expect to be appreciated
  3. Seek opportunities to change the atmosphere without commenting on the problems
  4. Do your job well, but remember your mission
  5. Don’t let your environment get inside of you
  6. Increase your capacity to work with different personalities
  7. Remember that where you are does not define where you are going
  8. The goal is optimum results with minimum confusion
  9. Do not pledge allegence with the many clicks and groups that are normal at the workplace
  10. Always keep your song near you

I found this video series to be full of gems that most people can use to better navigate the sometimes troubles waters of the workplace. Better than me giving you information second-hand, I invite you to look at the video series yourself.

Below is the first video in the seven video series:

Let me know what you think.

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Never Vulnerable Again!

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Hey there, folks. It has been a long while since I posted. I have been caught up with working, being a family man, training in martial arts, and trying to get more fun and rest in. In the past two years or so is the first time in several years that I didn’t have some sort of a side business to supplement my 9 to 5 income.

My 9 to 5 situation has become a little shaky recently after I suffered an injury that has really side-lined me. I needed surgery and all. Now, money is a little tight in my household. We’re getting by, but our quality of life has diminished.

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Why am I even telling you all of this?

Not for sympathy and not because I’m going to set-up a GoFundMe page to ask for donations or anything like that, but rather to give you a warning by example to not put all of your eggs in one basket.

That is to say don’t rely solely on your income from your job. Things can change quickly and an employee can be fired for no reason or any reason at all (except if discrimination can be proven) in 49 out of 50 states — Montana being the exception.

I strongly encourage you find something that you can do on the side to create some “cushion cash” in case something changes at your job. Learn from my mistake of becoming too comfortable. As a martial artist and past recreational boxer, I should know that I did in fact violate rule number one: Protect yourself at all times.

I am going to get back into teaching martial arts classes again after I fully recover from my injury. But what I’m really looking to do, is to create passive, recurring income. A friend of mine from Texas, named Esther, told me about a cool side business that I can operate from home. I also have realized that there are numerous tax benefits in that I can write-off a lot of the money I was already spending as classify those expenditures as business expenses. That way, I will get a larger tax return next year. It is sort of like double-dipping in that I am increasing my income and keeping more money in my pocket because I have a smaller tax bill. That is cool.

I’m building a strong fortress that the Big Bad Wolf of injury and lost pay cannot blow down.

I plan to never be vulnerable again!

Please, take care of yourself and learn from my mistake.

Thank about your current hobbies and see if you can monetize it. It will create another source of income and help you stay afloat if something happens to your job.

Thanks for your time.

Life is Like a Pizza Pie

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Pizza

The pizza pie pictured here has different toppings on each of the eight slices.

The pizza represents your life, and the individual slices represent different areas of your life.

We should all have goals in each of the eight areas of life in order to attain a full, balanced life.

Here are the eight areas:

  1. Health
  2. Money
  3. Family
  4. Socializing
  5. Charity
  6. Spiritual
  7. Educational
  8. Career

I’ll just ask a few questions on each of the eight areas of life.

Your answers will help you determine what goals you need to make and what you have to do to achieve them.

Health

Need to lose a few pounds? Need to address your high blood pressure or high cholesterol? How about kicking the smoking habit? Thinking about a joining a gym?

Money

Want to save more money? Looking to earn more money by starting a business? Going to have a tax professional do your taxes this year?

Family

Have you been so busy at work that you’re not spending time with your significant other and kids? When is the last time you visited your parents? Do your kids know their aunts, uncles, and cousins?

Socializing

When is the last time you went out to have fun? Do you have a hobby? Is there a new restaurant you wanted to try out?

Charity

Are you going to serve in a soup kitchen next weekend? Are you going to donate a tenth of your tax refund to charity? Thinking about doing volunteer work at your child’s school?

Spiritual

Interested in philosophy or religion? Have you ever tried Yoga or Chi Kung? Do you know how to meditate?

Educational

Interested in earning an advanced degree? Looking to join a professional, trade, and or a networking organization? Going to any workshops any time soon?

Career

Are you where you want to be? What do you really want to do? What profession is the best fit for your personality and skill set?

Confucius said, “A journey of one thousand miles begins with the first step.”

Now that you an idea of how to create your perfect pizza, go do it.

All the best.

Written by Tyrone Turner

January 29, 2015 at 8:47 pm

My 2014 Year In Review

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Happy New Year, everybody! I truly hope that 2015 brings you increased peace and good fortune. Thinking back on 2014, I’d say that it was a pretty good year for me. Black folks in who have roots in the Southeastern US are familiar with an old saying: “We ain’t what we wanna be and we and what we gonna be, but thank GOD we ain’t who we was!”

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2014 was a year of new beginnings for me. I was able to get a new job after being unemployed for more than a year [Sidebar: I’m a Citizen Lobbyist for the passage of the Healthy Workplace Bill here in New York State for a reason]. 2013 really kicked me in at gut in so many different ways, but the sun did indeed come out again in 2014. I will not ramble on here in the blog post by providing exhaustive details of things that happened, but I will share this quick list of 10 things that I learned:

  1. Friends are few
  2. Allies can morph into enemies
  3. Most people are not evil, but may be arrogant, apathetic, and afraid
  4. Recreating yourself to adapt to change is crucial for survival
  5. If you don’t stand for something, you will fall for anything.
  6. When in a fight, you WILL get hit
  7. Published work (e.g., reports, white papers, articles and books) are the new business card
  8. People are watching when you think they are not
  9. It is better to conduct research and ask clarifying questions rather than argue
  10. If you don’t have more than one income source, you are at risk

Again, all the best to you in 2015.

My Thoughts on the Ferguson Verdict and Rioting

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I have been watching the news over the last two days and I’m disappointed at what I’m seeing. Personally, the grand jury’s verdict didn’t surprise me. I am not a lawyer, but I was aware of what the Missouri law said about police use of force.

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Here is a great explanation of why P.O. Darren Wilson was not charged –> CLICK HERE.

Folks are looting and burning businesses down in their own neighborhood. One shouldn’t do these things at all, but doing it in your own neighborhood is economic suicide.

When you burn things down and loot in a given neighborhood, property values go down. Businesses that were looted and burned-out may never return. Now you will have no businesses in your neighborhood and therefore no job opportunities. Because there are no businesses, you have to travel outside of your neighborhood to buy things which of course will not be very convenient.

Being that property values are down and you have to travel far to get to work and to buy consumer goods, you will sell your home on the cheap and eventually relocate. Your bargain basement priced home will be bought by outside investors who will hold onto the property for a few years and rebuild later. That is how gentrification starts.

Also, the National Guard has set up a perimeter around Ferguson. While I’m not a military strategy and tactics expert, here is what I do know as a retired military policeman trained in civil disturbance and crowd control:

  • During civil unrest, set up a perimeter to lay siege to a town. Nothing gets in or out without consent of command. That includes food and medical supplies.
  • A perimeter surrounds your target and makes sure that unrest doesn’t spill into adjacent areas. Also, when troops are ready to close in, the vise is ready to close.

In my humble opinion, a better thing to do is to start first local then national discussion on the police use of deadly force and use the U.S. Constitution as point of reference. National standards for police use of deadly force MAY infringe on states rights (10th Amendment), and the retention of the status quo for the police use of deadly force in various municipalities MAY violate one’s due process rights (14th Amendment).

Let’s reason together and create a system of justice for all Americans.

An Inconvenient Truth About Working While Black

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First off, this is not crying, pulling the race card or anything like that. This is just being 100% honest based on my personal e,periences. Funny thing is that oftentimes your antagonists in the workplace tend to look like you — from the same race or culture. Strange but true.

In my latest book, The 52 Corporate Caveats: How to Cover Your Ass in Corporate America, I offer up the following advice to Black men in leadership positions:

You’re a Black man in a leadership position in Corporate America. The media portrays you as a wild beast. Employees won’t give you the same respect that they GIVE to White men in your same position. You’ll have to EARN it. Mind your P’s and Q’s. Be fair, be honest and persevere.

As a Black (African-American) man who has worked in Corporate America for 25+ years and who is also a father, I must say that fictional character, Eli Pope, from the hit ABC television show, Scandal, really “keeps it real” with his daughter, Olivia. In my opinion, truer words have not been spoken. Pay attention specifically (for the purposes of this blog post) to what fictional character Eli Pope says to his daughter starting at 1:16 through 1:36. He really vocalizes how when your are Black, you have to work so much harder and still get less for their efforts. Yep, the game is kind of rigged.

Well, that is my two cents. As a Black man I would be irresponsible if I didn’t tell people what really goes on and to address the proverbial elephant in the room.

The bigotry and racism need to stop and be replaced by a system of justice that is truly fair to all. Regardless of race, creed, color, se,ual orientation, religion, gender, nationality, etc.

You know what, I will start a series of on social media called Inconvenient Truths using the hash tag #inconvenienttruths.

I leave you with the words of the great American (who happens to have been Black), Frederick Douglas:

“Men talk of the ‘negro problem’. There is no negro problem. The problem is whether they American people have honesty enough, loyalty enough, honor enough, patriotism enough to live up to their own constitution. We intend that the American people shall learn the great lesson of the brotherhood of man and the fatherhood of God from our presence among them.”

Thanks for your time.

Friends, Here’s to You

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I heard a Maya Angelou quote a couple of years ago that is so very true:

“People may forget what you said or did, but they never forget how you made them feel.”

As I travel through life and have been fortunate enough to achieve some success in few of my endeavors, I am surprised by how some that I thank respond.

They were just doing what they do as they are good people, but they had NO IDEA how much their kind words, actions, or just the road map that they provided me with from just observing them, had a positive effect on me.

Remember, people are watching and listening, and though they may forget details of what was said or done, they remember how you made them feel great. I remember those who have helped me – especially over the last 18 months, and I am thankful.

In the words of my friends from the legendary R&B group, Skyy, “Here’s to You,” my true friends.

Peace and good fortune to you all.